Easier To Meet The Pope
Ξ May 12th, 2008 | → | ∇ Uncategorized |
A friend keeps calling and leaving messages, trying to pin me down so that we can get together. I was surprised to be home this weekend, but when we talked Friday night I had already talked to K & B about watching the hockey game over dinner. He jokingly commented that it wasn’t a problem, seeing as how he had managed to get a meeting with the Pope and he probably should get his rest anyhow.
That got me thinking. Is it possible to have too many friends? I mean really, can one be a bad friend because one has too many friends?
I haven’t seen my best friend from high school in I can’t even tell you how long. Hell, we barely even talk on the phone anymore.
DVD thought I lied to him because we had a miscommunication. If I weren’t running around constantly it probably wouldn’t have happened. But I have been a bad friend to him as well. He has a fun wife and a terrific young daughter that I wanna go hang out with, but I keep having things jump up in my life and they keep getting put on the back burner. That truly sucketh.
One of my best friends has a young son who was born the day before Cinco de Mayo (about 7 years ago??). And we all know I was in Philly that weekend so I certainly wasn’t at the birthday party. Bad friend.
My family is on the large side and I would pick most of them as friends if we weren’t already related. Which means I love to do stuff with these folks. And also that several of us live in rather close proximity and therefore it is easy to do things together. Yet I don’t do all of the family things available. Bad Becky.
There are way too many examples for me to write here. I would be writing all night and just depressing myself. But I would love to know if you guys get the same feelings ever…can one have too many friends?
In my defense, I did go to the movies with Friend and his awesome 15 year old daughter. Kids are so cool, especially when they aren’t mine. Anyhow, Saturday I got to see both Speed Racer and Iron Man. It was a good day. I love the movies and don’t go nearly often enough.
If I didn’t spend five hours in blog talk radio chat rooms I might have elaborated more on this one. Perhaps we can do that in the comments!
P.S. Penguins won Sunday night, putting us up 2-0 in the series. Wafrikkenhoooo!!! Go Pens!
on May 12th, 2008 at 6:14 am
You’re not a bad friend, you’re living your life. I haven’t spoken to my best friend in like 4 months - I always say I am gonna call her when I get home or when I am in LI but she is married w/ 2 kids and can’t just go out - It happens it doesn’t make you a bad friend. If they are your friends they know you care and that if something happened - you would be there w/out hesitation.
on May 12th, 2008 at 7:17 am
Don’t be guilty about having fun.
And you spent five hours with your FRIENDS in BlogTalkRadio chat rooms *giggling*
on May 12th, 2008 at 7:41 am
I have that problem. Especially since most of my friends are tossed all over the country and require serious fucking planning to spend time with.
I’ve been promising my best friend back home a weekend getaway in Florida for… mmm… 9 months now. I THINK she’s going to make it in June.
on May 12th, 2008 at 8:11 am
Nope. Not allowed to talk about hockey HERE either
You want to meet the Pope? Because I can totally make that happen.
on May 12th, 2008 at 9:05 am
I saw my college roomie for the first time in 20 years this past March. We’d known each other since high school.
I’ve gone years without seeing many of my best friends. A lot of it’s because we live 90 minutes from each other and a lot is because we have kids. There’s a group of us that tries to get together annually … we don’t always make it.
on May 12th, 2008 at 9:24 am
leeb - we differ a bit here. i say that living my life and having a kerjilion friends makes me a bad friend.
turn - yes i did giggle like a lunatic with my friends. especially because you are fucking fabulous. ha! but the fact remains that i did not leave my house to get together with any of my pittsburgh based friends which makes me a bad friend to them. sigh.
britt - i have this problem with friends in pittsburgh as well as friends outta town. one of the things i love about me is that i pick up people everywhere i go, yet it also drives me nuts coz there is only so much damn time in the day. (as you well know!)
fab - hockey, hockey, HOCKEY!!! go pens!! hehe
delmer - ok, you have excuses (kids, 90 minutes) and i so don’t. no husband’s schedule to worry about, no kids and we are talking friends who live 20 minutes from me for crying out loud. well, in my defense i do have my dogs. gotta throw the big red ball!
on May 12th, 2008 at 9:28 am
Sweetie, you have to remember that EVERYONE has a crazy life. So believe me, mostly, people understand.
One of the things I really love about you is how open you are in your life to so many friends and experiences.
on May 12th, 2008 at 10:14 am
I know you’ve never received the Poppy advice, so it might come as a shock from that cute, perky, awesome girl you met in Philly… but here goes:
1. Stop worrying about what other people think of you. Seriously, time to take care of yourself.
2. Decide what’s important to you. Is it important to have just a few friends that you see a lot, or a lot of friends that you know are out there when you need them but you rarely see?
3. If anyone gives you shit/tries to guilt trip you for your busy life tell them to fuck off.
4. If you have any friends you just don’t care about seeing anymore for whatever reason (the friendship is dead or toxic or just plain effed up) then break up with that friend.
5. The more honest and in touch (dirty!) you are with yourself the easier it will be to feel like you’re more at peace with how you manage your friendships.
6. And, … for life in general (this kinda covers a few of the other posts you’ve written that I didn’t comment on), you may want to make a priority list so you know what you want out of life. Because how the hell are you gonna get the life you want if you don’t even know what that means to you?
7. Understand and accept that you can’t always have everything you want exactly the way you want it, and that’s where compromise and changing the plan comes in.
Ok, I’m done.
on May 12th, 2008 at 11:03 am
Between Poppy and Nanna, I find I have nothing to add.
Except maybe that anyone who knows and loves you understands that you’re not doing it on purpose. xo
on May 12th, 2008 at 12:41 pm
What Nanna said. We all have busy lives. That’s why we all have trouble hooking up. I may have nothing going on but my other friends do and vice versa. It isn’t just YOU that is the cause of the difficulty in getting together.
on May 12th, 2008 at 2:23 pm
I have a ton of friends spread over many varied groups of friends. Thankfully we all like to do similar things so I just do my thing and know that we’ll run into each other eventually!
on May 12th, 2008 at 3:05 pm
I TOLD you that I was a dipshit when you started this whole relationship thingy with me in the first place!!! You didn’t believe me. Now I have proven it to you! Hahahahahahahaha!!! I win!!! But seriously, kiddo…as I said last night, I was not mad and then when I realized what I did, I said my bad and I’m sorry. You needn’t worry about us’ns. We’ll get together at some point and when we do…OH BOY!!! LOOK OUT!!! Something is going to be naked and some of us will be drunk!!!!
Yes dear. Only this last weekend I had some of the problems which you so eloquently describe. Leon wanted me to ride to Sayre with him to pick up his brand new to him “clown car” and Adrian wanted me to bring my tractor to his place to plow up his food plots for the deer and turkeys and John and my brother wanted me to go turkey hunting and Sandy and Molly June and Logan wanted me to be at home and to go fishing with them and the boss (oh my God…I forgot about the boss) he wanted me to work on Saturday and then there was the time that I wanted to spend in the restroom whacking my grizzly beast and recording it for all of humanity and the police were looking for me because I had flashed my manhood at two 90′ish nuns at the Catholic School next door and what about the dogs…the dogs always want me to play with them too, and I have to go to my sister-in-law’s house every Saturday morning because she needs to be satisfied and her husband is a truck driver who is only home about three days a year, and my kids are always sending me text messages asking me what color laptop they should buy or how to get the smell of roasted cat out of their car’s HVAC system and I haven’t had a good, stiff drink in about ten minutes so I’m going to have to go to my truck soon…
on May 12th, 2008 at 3:49 pm
I know, I know…NUTBAG
on May 12th, 2008 at 10:03 pm
my beautiful internet momma - i would buy that one except i am always out doing something fun. it isn’t like i can say “oh, my life is busy” when i am partying with this person and not that person. that is what i mean about having too many friends. not enough nonwork time to see and play with everyone.
poppy - you really are that cute, perky, awesome (and dirty!) girl and i just adore you. and honestly? i love your advice. please feel free to dish it out here anytime you so desire.
finn - i’m so glad we met. thanks for commenting, even if it was just to second others. xoxo
shelli - i do so need to remember that. (oh, and i totally googled you. cracked my shit up!)
gwen - you are so my long lost sister or cousin or something! can’t wait to meet you. you should come to nyc the last weekend in june with our little group. we are going CHEAP, ahem, i mean economically convenient. think about it!
dvd - this is bigger than nutbag. more like FUCKING WHACKJOB. sheesh! (although this post really wasn’t about you. gary gave me such crap about not even being able to catch a movie together and so many local friends are jacked that we never so anything any more. yet i am as exhausted from all the fun as i have ever been! maybe i am simply getting old. hehe)
on May 13th, 2008 at 8:01 pm
50 stitches in that poor boy’s face!!!!
My best friend from HS moved to right around the corner from me. Three years ago. One of these days, I’ll walk over……soon…..Hmmmm, I’d better call first and make sure she hasn’t moved away!
on May 13th, 2008 at 8:44 pm
mm - what the fuck did i miss? 50 stitches in the face of what poor boy? dammit, i know i am exhausted and running on empty, but whaaaa?
p.s. thanks for letting me know that i am not the only one with too many friends who is not able to do it all. now go call your former bestest buddy and tell her i said hi.
on May 13th, 2008 at 9:51 pm
Braydon Coburn took a speeding puck to the face in opening minutes of Game 2 on Sunday. Did you look away?? Now we are down him and Timonen (blood clot). You now, if the Pens win, it’s ONLY because of that.
Yeah, I’m talking smack!
on May 13th, 2008 at 10:33 pm
I know the damned thing wasn’t about me…but I made it about me. I make everything about me. You know that. Come on, Haha…figurr this stuff out, woodja?
on May 13th, 2008 at 10:53 pm
metalmomma - ahhhhh! now i got cha. of course i wasn’t glued to the tv sunday, i had like a hundred hours of blog talk radio to listen to while i was acting the fool in the chat rooms. your boy got broke, but didn’t know how many stitches it took to try to finally make him pretty.
you wanna talk smack? i’ll let you. and i’ll simply point to the scoreboard. (ouch! up three to nuttin, bay-bee! that’s right. woot-woot!!)
that’s right, fabby. MORE HOCKEY ON MY BLOG! wheeee!
on May 13th, 2008 at 10:55 pm
donnie - it is all about you. it is all about you. it is all about you. k, i might have got it now.